Send us a text Join us on the Successful Life Podcast to explore the realities of running a trade business with industry experts Corey Berrier, Ellen Rohr, and Al Levi. In this episode, they share their career experiences and how they became trusted consultants. We discuss key topics such as financial literacy, collaboration, and project management. Ellen and Al offer practical advice on setting priorities, structuring teams, and using ride-alongs to build trust. They also highlight the val...
Join us on the Successful Life Podcast to explore the realities of running a trade business with industry experts Corey Berrier, Ellen Rohr, and Al Levi. In this episode, they share their career experiences and how they became trusted consultants.
We discuss key topics such as financial literacy, collaboration, and project management. Ellen and Al offer practical advice on setting priorities, structuring teams, and using ride-alongs to build trust. They also highlight the value of customer testimonials in strengthening business relationships.
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00:00:01.181 --> 00:00:02.983 Welcome to the Successful Life Podcast.
00:00:02.983 --> 00:00:08.976 I'm your host, corey Barrier, and I'm here with my two favorite people, ellen Rohr and Al Levy.
00:00:08.976 --> 00:00:12.162 What's up y'all how you doing Good?
00:00:12.262 --> 00:00:14.301 How about you Doing good?
00:00:14.301 --> 00:00:20.088 We got the country pretty well covered today the East Coast with you and then a little further north.
00:00:20.088 --> 00:00:23.112 When I look up, ellen's up in Utah somewhere.
00:00:23.112 --> 00:00:25.256 She's not traveling the whole world, which she does.
00:00:25.800 --> 00:00:27.006 I'm in Utah today.
00:00:27.420 --> 00:00:29.606 Yeah, and I'm anchoring Arizona, so we're good.
00:00:30.128 --> 00:00:30.890 Yeah, we're good.
00:00:30.890 --> 00:00:47.273 So those that may not know who the two of you are just probably not too many people just give me a quick rundown of what you do each, and then also what your combined efforts have been in the past.
00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:49.627 You start out, you go first.
00:00:50.179 --> 00:01:04.510 Yeah, so I was born in the trade, as Ellen told me one day and I was sharing a story again with Natalie, my wife, and when they were talking about nepotism and things of that nature, ellen turns to me in some meeting where we're out together and she goes.
00:01:04.510 --> 00:01:08.204 I was born with a silver spoon.
00:01:08.406 --> 00:01:12.974 And I looked at her and I go, that's true, but mine was covered with fuel oil, that's true.
00:01:12.974 --> 00:01:23.652 So I grew up in the trades very young my family's business plumbing, heating, cooling, electric on Long Island, new York for the little accent that I have left.
00:01:23.652 --> 00:01:25.406 I worked all those years.
00:01:25.406 --> 00:01:31.082 I gave my brothers three years notice which is the famous story to get all the systems in place and people in place.
00:01:31.082 --> 00:01:37.825 And then I moved out here to Arizona and then I did one-to-one consulting on my own Many times.
00:01:37.825 --> 00:01:55.611 We actually did a thing together called the Alan L Show, and as Alan was in the front of the room and I was sitting there with my writer, kim, she's going on about financials and knowing what you're talking about and I said, kim, come outside with me a minute and we go outside.
00:01:55.611 --> 00:01:58.185 And I said, kim, I just realized something.
00:01:58.185 --> 00:02:05.430 She goes what I could do, a successful operation and the patient will die if they don't do what Ellen does as well.
00:02:05.430 --> 00:02:09.631 And so that's how we got co-consulting together.
00:02:11.961 --> 00:02:13.647 And it's funny we met.
00:02:13.647 --> 00:02:15.866 Now we have different stories.
00:02:15.866 --> 00:02:17.366 We fuss all the time.
00:02:17.366 --> 00:02:22.610 This is my work husband, al, so we never remember the stories exactly the same way.
00:02:22.610 --> 00:02:29.213 But as I remember it, I sold him a membership to Contractors 2000, now Nexstar.
00:02:29.213 --> 00:02:31.806 So this is going back in the day.
00:02:31.806 --> 00:02:34.406 He's an OG and I was the salesperson.
00:02:34.406 --> 00:02:37.068 And we have a mutual friend, dan Hollihan.
00:02:37.219 --> 00:02:40.751 If you're in the Northeast or you're into hydronics, this is the guy.
00:02:40.751 --> 00:02:43.568 In fact he just received a Lifetime Achievement Award.
00:02:43.568 --> 00:02:45.724 I saw, and well-deserved.
00:02:45.724 --> 00:02:50.527 Dan Holland has brought a lot of people together in the industry and me and Al are two of those folks.
00:02:50.527 --> 00:02:58.828 And when we go out to dinner I signed him up for Service Titan, the Service Titan for Contractors 2000 for a membership.
00:02:58.828 --> 00:03:02.366 And he calls me we're going to the first super meeting together.
00:03:02.366 --> 00:03:07.504 And he calls me and he says, well, I'd like to go out to dinner and I'm like, great, that'd be nice, get to know each other a little bit.
00:03:07.504 --> 00:03:09.306 So I've sent you an agenda.
00:03:09.306 --> 00:03:16.473 There is an agenda for dinner, for coffee, for the first 15 minutes.
00:03:17.502 --> 00:03:23.383 Al is a very disciplined person and over the years, al, you've had a very good effect on me.
00:03:23.383 --> 00:03:28.506 So I appreciate so much the order, the systems, the sanity.
00:03:28.506 --> 00:03:34.510 We all believe we should wear bracelets that just say what would Al do and do what Al tells us to do.
00:03:34.510 --> 00:03:43.538 Me and all of Al's clients over the years have just decided that if he said it, it's right, so you might as well just do it.
00:03:43.538 --> 00:03:50.025 And we ended up with a really great partnership.
00:03:50.025 --> 00:03:51.210 Over the years we came in and out of each other's lives.
00:03:51.210 --> 00:03:56.072 We're best friends all the way, but professionally we chose to do some joint ventures together and a lot of the times it was working with the same clients.
00:03:56.072 --> 00:04:00.325 I would help with the financial piece and Al would do marketing operations.
00:04:00.325 --> 00:04:09.012 Vision strategy, the seven power concept Of the seven power concepts, I do one and Al does six, and it was a very fruitful.
00:04:09.240 --> 00:04:11.201 She actually does too, don't you, I do too.
00:04:11.222 --> 00:04:12.004 That's right, we share one.
00:04:12.004 --> 00:04:16.504 So I married a plumber.
00:04:16.504 --> 00:04:18.007 This is how I got into the trades.
00:04:18.007 --> 00:04:23.045 I wasn't born into it with fuel oil, but I married a plumber and that's how I got into it.
00:04:23.045 --> 00:04:28.127 And what happened to me happens to a lot of moms and a mom and pop shop situation.
00:04:28.127 --> 00:04:29.569 I got stuck with the books.
00:04:29.569 --> 00:04:33.589 I didn't like it, I was terrible at it, and all we did was lose money and fight.
00:04:34.471 --> 00:04:51.103 So, with the help of some great mentors, I figured out my asset from my elbow and started to put simple financial systems in a place like charge more than it costs, come up with a reasonable selling price, pay attention to the balance sheet and the profit loss.
00:04:51.103 --> 00:04:57.074 These simple procedures changed my life, made me a wealthy woman, and now I preach.
00:04:57.074 --> 00:05:02.252 That's really what I do, and over the years we've done it with our individual consultants and clients.
00:05:02.252 --> 00:05:04.504 We started Zoom Drain together.
00:05:04.504 --> 00:05:06.891 Al was our original investor at Zoom Drain.
00:05:06.891 --> 00:05:08.766 Thank you very much, al, for the lift.
00:05:08.766 --> 00:05:16.247 And now I'm at Service Titan with this big, broad megaphone and an opportunity to share far and wide.
00:05:16.247 --> 00:05:18.968 I love being able to visit on podcasts.
00:05:18.968 --> 00:05:33.281 Once upon a time we looked at trade magazines to get a clue and they're still relevant, but podcasts and chat, gpt and all these other ways that we can find information has really changed the game for the better, I think.
00:05:34.283 --> 00:05:34.704 It has.
00:05:34.704 --> 00:05:44.750 But, like most things, it's a double-edged sword in my opinion, and I always am so empathetic, gauri, to contractors today Because we thought we had a load of information.
00:05:44.750 --> 00:05:46.954 We had a garden hose.
00:05:46.954 --> 00:06:00.262 You guys have a fire hose of information that's just pouring at you between social media and trade groups, and there are a thousand more shows a year than what I attended and I thought I went to a lot of shows.
00:06:00.262 --> 00:06:02.988 So there's a great amount of information.
00:06:03.048 --> 00:06:15.660 And all that I share with you is if you don't have a system and obviously I advocate the seven powers for some reason it's as a building blocks, but as a filter, because otherwise you're going to hear a lot of great information.
00:06:15.660 --> 00:06:18.069 But it doesn't all fit together.
00:06:18.069 --> 00:06:23.485 And I have modernized from Frankenstein because I realized people they're out there, they don't know who Frankenstein is.
00:06:23.485 --> 00:06:24.987 So I go.
00:06:24.987 --> 00:06:26.189 It's basically a dream car.
00:06:26.189 --> 00:06:28.494 Would you, if I gave you the power to build a dream car?
00:06:28.494 --> 00:06:32.132 Would you take a four chassis, toyota engine, hyundai seats?
00:06:32.132 --> 00:06:37.548 Of course not, but we do that all day by pulling stuff from everywhere and it doesn't necessarily fit.
00:06:38.250 --> 00:06:46.454 So your charge people who are listening to this podcast is you have to know the person that I'm listening to.
00:06:46.454 --> 00:06:48.184 Are they a genius or an idiot?
00:06:48.184 --> 00:06:49.187 And that is not easy.
00:06:49.187 --> 00:07:06.583 The only way to know, though, is testimonials is really a big thing, and Ellen and I have always understood and Dan Hollihan, who literally took me by the side one time and goes hey Al, what you would have to say about how great you are is mildly interesting to me.
00:07:06.583 --> 00:07:17.153 What I really want to hear is somebody else who's like me, what they have to say about what you are and what you did and what it is, and I never forgot that lesson.
00:07:18.100 --> 00:07:41.365 Well, it's interesting that you say that, because I often see we're all in a lot of the same Facebook groups and a lot of information gets handed out and a lot of people learn from these Facebook groups, but the one question that they're not asking is they don't know well, what did this person put into the business before they started it?
00:07:41.365 --> 00:07:42.985 How did they start the business?
00:07:42.985 --> 00:07:50.629 What you know, they don't really know behind the curtain how these decisions are being.
00:07:50.629 --> 00:07:55.283 These suggestions are being given and without context.
00:07:55.283 --> 00:08:03.944 I don't know how you take the suggestions from someone that you don't know, because you don't know what they're dealing with.
00:08:03.944 --> 00:08:05.588 You don't know what you don't know.
00:08:05.588 --> 00:08:07.050 Do they start with a pile of money?
00:08:07.050 --> 00:08:08.374 Did they not start with a pile of money?
00:08:15.500 --> 00:08:16.880 Because, that's two entirely different perspectives.
00:08:16.901 --> 00:08:19.223 So you're telling me that one size advice doesn't fit everybody.
00:08:19.223 --> 00:08:20.803 I have to write that down.
00:08:20.803 --> 00:08:21.603 No, it's so true.
00:08:21.603 --> 00:08:22.365 It is so true.
00:08:22.365 --> 00:08:43.577 I will say one quick thing before I switch to Ellen is one way is, if you're in some really good, trusted groups and you pose a question, the volume of what you get and the people that are responding and the way that they're responding and Ellen has a great example is either making the light bulb brighter or the light bulb dimmer.
00:08:43.577 --> 00:08:47.344 So I'll let Ellen take it from there.
00:08:47.364 --> 00:08:55.767 Yeah, yeah, I think a lesson I learned Al gives me credit for this, but I got it from Jim Abrams once upon a time, another great mentor of mine.
00:08:55.767 --> 00:08:58.860 He said the simpler you make it, the further you can take it.
00:08:58.860 --> 00:09:05.193 And I feel like, especially as I've lived a long time, been in the industry now for 40 years which is just bananas.
00:09:05.193 --> 00:09:07.908 I fight fancy all the time.
00:09:07.908 --> 00:09:13.726 It isn't a lack of information for people, it's a lack of implementation.
00:09:13.726 --> 00:09:19.198 And so, like my and my personal journey went like this First I had to figure out the money.
00:09:19.198 --> 00:09:21.268 It was like Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
00:09:21.268 --> 00:09:28.746 Until we had enough money to survive day to day and just like get a breath, there was really nothing I could do.
00:09:28.886 --> 00:09:46.673 And if you're thinking about raising your prices and all those implications and you're thinking, oh, maybe I should, I should be better before I can raise my prices, you're already better, you're already good enough and you have to raise your prices now to afford the mentor, the group, the seminar, the direct, the help you're going to need.
00:09:46.673 --> 00:10:02.142 Raise your prices to be able to choose a path and settle in on some information and then the next step so handle the money and then the next step is get stuff done, and Alan is skinny little book.
00:10:02.142 --> 00:10:12.851 Seven power lines out planning power, which is essentially write down all the things you need to do that you thought of doing.
00:10:12.851 --> 00:10:18.017 You've got ideas for, write them all down, type them out and then pick 30.
00:10:18.017 --> 00:10:23.547 You could tackle 30 in a year and then pick five no more than five and work on those.
00:10:23.927 --> 00:10:31.368 Now Gino Wickman wrote Traction, which is a little more elaborate game plan that will get you the same place.
00:10:31.368 --> 00:10:33.408 So there's more than one way to do this.
00:10:33.408 --> 00:10:41.091 But overall you need some project management process in your company, in your life, or stuff won't get done.
00:10:41.091 --> 00:10:44.687 That's why Al does agendas is because stuff happens that way.
00:10:44.687 --> 00:10:50.980 He's a planner and as a result, he's created a great life for himself and his clients and his friends.
00:10:50.980 --> 00:10:56.259 So that, I think, is the piece here is that it's probably not a lack of information.
00:10:56.259 --> 00:11:12.405 You probably have 5 million things written somewhere and this process of just and it's exhausting right Postage yeah, all that and and so getting you and your team in fact.
00:11:12.647 --> 00:11:16.221 You have a good story about how you started that at your own company.
00:11:16.221 --> 00:11:21.211 You suspected Al as you were getting your arms around things.
00:11:21.211 --> 00:11:33.206 Again, we speak from our own experience strength and hope right, and as Al's figuring out what to do at his company, you tell a good story about asking everybody on the team to bring whatever projects they were working on.
00:11:33.668 --> 00:11:39.990 Yeah, and winter was our big season before we really expanded to other things, so it was a cold winter day.
00:11:39.990 --> 00:11:49.188 Come back in, I'm running through a company now of 70 people and I'm asking some people to help me with a project that needed to get done, and they're all too busy.
00:11:49.188 --> 00:11:52.624 And finally, new York absolute rage.
00:11:52.624 --> 00:11:56.600 I said, well, whatever you're working on, you just bring it into the conference room.
00:11:56.600 --> 00:11:57.783 We're all going to put it in there.
00:11:57.783 --> 00:12:04.730 So I put them all in the conference room and they start piling up papers all over the place and we start sifting through this mess of papers.
00:12:04.730 --> 00:12:09.327 Yes, people, it's 30 years ago and so we're going through it.
00:12:09.327 --> 00:12:18.163 Here's what we find out, corey, in this meeting, two people are working on the same project and neither one knew the other person was working on it.
00:12:18.163 --> 00:12:22.493 Other people thought they were working on a thing that I gave great priority to.
00:12:22.493 --> 00:12:40.187 The problem is, I don't even remember talking about it, let alone assigning it to anyone, and so, as we whittled this all down, from what she's talking about, this master project list, the top 30 down to the top five, we finally, for the first time, got on the same page, literally.
00:12:40.248 --> 00:12:44.400 Now, of course, today there's a lot of great project management and software.
00:12:44.400 --> 00:12:45.062 We used to use Trello Monday.
00:12:45.062 --> 00:12:46.182 You's a lot of great project management software.
00:12:46.182 --> 00:12:46.803 We used to use Trello Monday.
00:12:46.803 --> 00:12:47.904 You can use whatever you want.
00:12:47.904 --> 00:12:51.509 I will tell you that Ellen and I have coached clients together.
00:12:51.509 --> 00:12:56.475 One caution is yes, get the train moving, do that all out.
00:12:56.475 --> 00:13:03.940 But if you think Trello Monday any project management is going to make things actually happen, you're sadly mistaken.
00:13:03.940 --> 00:13:05.245 Thank you for shaking your head out.
00:13:05.245 --> 00:13:17.644 Yeah, because what we would insist on is get your calendar out and type it in right now, because we're going to ask about it next week and we want a progress report on it, and that is the big thing.
00:13:17.644 --> 00:13:19.145 So don't leave it just in there.
00:13:19.145 --> 00:13:22.529 It's got to be on people's calendars and there's got to be accountability.
00:13:27.639 --> 00:13:28.481 I think the implementation part is.
00:13:28.481 --> 00:13:34.200 You know, it's one of the things that I've found in my time working with people in the trades.
00:13:34.200 --> 00:13:37.446 That is the biggest chokehold.
00:13:37.446 --> 00:13:47.046 As you said, there's a million ways to skin a cat and they have all million of them and I think they just can't choose which one to focus on, and so they just don't.
00:13:47.046 --> 00:13:50.758 Maybe it was an analysis by paralysis or I think.
00:13:50.758 --> 00:13:56.032 Maybe I said that backwards, but the point is, there's so many things to focus on, you just don't do anything.
00:13:57.519 --> 00:13:58.061 It's easy.
00:13:58.061 --> 00:14:01.366 It's easy to get to a point where you just stand still.
00:14:01.366 --> 00:14:04.712 I know I have been there in my life and I just go.
00:14:04.712 --> 00:14:12.139 What?
00:14:12.139 --> 00:14:14.870 And this is going to sound more morbid than anything else, but I coach my own kids on this, when they would get overloaded.
00:14:14.870 --> 00:14:18.764 I go, there's still a moment to take out a pen and a paper, even though you can do stuff on a computer.
00:14:18.764 --> 00:14:24.563 Just list out everything you need to do today and I want you to prioritize just today.
00:14:24.563 --> 00:14:30.134 And the way I want you to prioritize is heaven forbid, the bus hits you at 10 am.
00:14:30.134 --> 00:14:34.442 What have you accomplished by 10 am?
00:14:34.442 --> 00:14:46.763 And then instantly you learn how to prioritize and this begins, this good habit begins to expand once you get these first things going and you start getting the top five to move along, top 30 to move along.
00:14:47.264 --> 00:15:06.530 Master project that Ellen and I know is the great thing is actually changes company culture, because we do reach out to the people at the company, because they're on the front lines in all these different positions to bring to us a project or a habit we need to get in place, but we put it at the top of the master project list.
00:15:06.530 --> 00:15:12.466 They don't just throw everything aside and that's part of the problems I go, I hear your podcast and I go.
00:15:12.466 --> 00:15:13.230 That's a great idea.
00:15:13.230 --> 00:15:14.434 You know what everybody.
00:15:14.434 --> 00:15:15.480 Stop what you're doing.
00:15:15.480 --> 00:15:16.461 I know what I said.
00:15:16.461 --> 00:15:22.985 Those were priorities, but today I heard Corey say this, so this is what we're doing.
00:15:23.004 --> 00:15:23.405 The next week.
00:15:23.405 --> 00:15:25.851 It's something different, it's just classic.
00:15:27.144 --> 00:15:34.734 This is what I love about you, Al, it's just true north, classic advice and systems for making your life and your business better.
00:15:34.734 --> 00:15:37.830 So a couple of things came to mind as we were visiting.
00:15:37.830 --> 00:15:42.636 So one is meetings have a bad reputation.
00:15:42.636 --> 00:15:44.884 Yeah, Because most meetings suck.
00:15:44.884 --> 00:15:52.626 The wrong people are there, they go on too long, they get derailed all of that, so nobody wants another meeting.
00:15:52.626 --> 00:15:53.971 It's almost become a joke, especially with younger people.
00:15:53.971 --> 00:15:54.833 And I get it.
00:15:54.874 --> 00:16:00.466 Paul Kelly I love him so much, who has grown the Parkinson's in Arizona.
00:16:00.466 --> 00:16:08.441 He told me you can solve any problem if you meet about it often enough with the right people.
00:16:08.441 --> 00:16:20.789 And what he means is and this works with Al's program and with EOS if someone shows up to the meeting day after day and hasn't done anything, they expose themselves.
00:16:20.789 --> 00:16:37.043 Either they need help and they're willing and don't know what to do, in which case you guys can brainstorm and figure things out, or they're unwilling or not capable of doing what's required, and that's someone who just can't stay because you can't have someone who's just going to lose on your watch.
00:16:37.043 --> 00:16:47.731 So meetings will expose whether or not there is someone who can be helped and developed at your company, or if you've got someone who's just going to be a rock in the road.
00:16:47.731 --> 00:16:48.966 So meetings are important.
00:16:48.966 --> 00:16:59.908 Another thing that you said, Corey, that I want to jump on is sometimes people don't know what to do, and there's an expression how do you eat an elephant?
00:16:59.908 --> 00:17:00.889 What's the answer?
00:17:01.110 --> 00:17:01.993 One bite at a time.
00:17:02.941 --> 00:17:07.040 The follow-up question may be well, which bite first, like?
00:17:07.040 --> 00:17:09.925 I don't want to make mistakes, I don't want to, but whatever.
00:17:09.925 --> 00:17:14.759 And the reality is it doesn't really matter which bite, just get going.
00:17:14.759 --> 00:17:20.932 So when you put your top five together, a good advice from Al was put in, an easy one.
00:17:20.932 --> 00:17:29.922 And cleaning is never bad, never bad, like if it's clean.
00:17:29.922 --> 00:17:32.910 One truck is going to be a top project and organize that one truck the way you want that truck to look.
00:17:32.910 --> 00:17:36.628 Or clean the warehouse, clean your desk I'll clean my desk.
00:17:36.628 --> 00:17:42.527 Boom, throw it all on the floor, throw it out to the parking lot, have a bonfire and then start fresh.
00:17:42.527 --> 00:17:56.134 Cleaning is always good, never bad, and when you clean, you usually discover some weird things that are going to go on your you know overall project list because you're looking, you're in it.
00:17:57.982 --> 00:17:59.267 That is a good way to identify.
00:17:59.267 --> 00:18:00.530 Why is this?
00:18:00.530 --> 00:18:02.046 What's this legacy?
00:18:02.046 --> 00:18:03.746 Who is this legacy from?
00:18:03.746 --> 00:18:05.391 Why are we continuing forward?
00:18:05.391 --> 00:18:07.501 It causes you to ask good questions.
00:18:07.781 --> 00:18:13.913 Yes, yeah, absolutely so so it seems the two of you get along quite well.
00:18:13.913 --> 00:18:14.881 So I have a question.
00:18:14.881 --> 00:18:24.152 So my guess is, as long as you've worked together and known each other, that it hasn't maybe always been this way.
00:18:24.291 --> 00:18:42.863 So I'd like to hear, maybe about a time when you just ready to kill each other I would say first of all, ellen and I, unconsciously, with my work wife and me being her work husband, we basically said that we'll always date and never get married.
00:18:42.863 --> 00:18:43.787 Wouldn't go married.
00:18:43.787 --> 00:18:46.018 Yeah, we're already married, but forget about that we'll always date and never get married.
00:18:46.018 --> 00:18:46.400 Wouldn't go well.
00:18:46.400 --> 00:18:49.028 Yeah, we're already married, but forget about that we are married.
00:18:49.088 --> 00:18:59.369 Yeah, we're not so, but Ellen shared the story about us shooting videos, and this is back when videos were low, the only thing we fight over is the stupidest stuff.
00:19:00.059 --> 00:19:02.962 Is the stupidest stuff Like never about?
00:19:02.962 --> 00:19:05.288 Like there's a river that runs through me and Al.
00:19:05.288 --> 00:19:09.426 That is the same values, trust levels, extremely high.
00:19:09.426 --> 00:19:15.310 Al and I always tell each other the truth Like we've never had a crack in that not even a crack.
00:19:15.310 --> 00:19:22.634 But for some reason, when we shoot video maybe even today, al, I'm like okay, well, let's just riff.
00:19:22.634 --> 00:19:29.946 Okay, let's just, we're going to, we're putting out a program or we're going to go to a seminar and we're going to be on stage, so we want to do a little promo video.
00:19:29.946 --> 00:19:31.787 Well, let's just like talk about it.
00:19:31.900 --> 00:19:53.984 And Al's like we need to write out the three bullets and I don't know why it would just push my buttons Like no, I don't want why I fought, but for some reason we turn into complete kindergartners fighting over a dodge, we would spend 20 minutes arguing the format to shoot a five minute video.
00:19:55.147 --> 00:20:01.065 And now, of course, it's very funny because I have reached a point in life where I don't care enough anymore.
00:20:01.065 --> 00:20:05.530 I got a camera, let's go, yeah.
00:20:06.673 --> 00:20:07.933 But the thing is too.
00:20:07.933 --> 00:20:12.488 I think you've really settled into the 10,000 hours with your stuff.
00:20:12.488 --> 00:20:21.747 When we were younger, we were also trying to figure some things out, like what was going to work, what was going to play, how do we get the message and the point across?
00:20:21.747 --> 00:20:26.808 And I think over the years I've learned we're going to throw some seeds on stony ground.
00:20:26.808 --> 00:20:41.412 There's going to be some information that lands with somebody and they just take it and they make their life better and on those occasions it gives me and I know you, al so much satisfaction that we just go out there another day.
00:20:42.961 --> 00:20:58.726 Yeah, no, we've been around long enough and had enough success with our clients, which is the only measurement in my opinion and these guys went off and were able to sell their companies or bring their family in and I'm particularly sensitive to, obviously, family, because now it's on to the fourth generation.
00:20:58.726 --> 00:21:03.885 That's very big for me and so it's rewarding, but it's rewarding because of what it is for them.
00:21:03.885 --> 00:21:14.909 That is rewarding to me, but anyway, so Ellen has us do, instead of personality profiling, which is an awful name what's the motivational mapping?
00:21:14.909 --> 00:21:23.732 So we do this program Flag Pages and we said, well, we can't ask our clients to show us theirs if we're not willing to show ours.
00:21:23.732 --> 00:21:29.205 So Ellen and I take it individually and when we put it together it's a giant X.
00:21:30.127 --> 00:21:35.965 We are such an X in the background of our personality, what motivates us.
00:21:35.965 --> 00:21:40.638 But at the core, there's such a big center.
00:21:40.638 --> 00:21:51.353 If you follow what I mean, sure, but what it taught, taught me was is I have to watch my words because, like Ellen was talking about triggering and because of that, there are better words for me to choose.
00:21:51.353 --> 00:22:02.126 And sometimes we, when we did this thing and we started to laugh because we knew how to push each other button, but now we had the words to push each other's button.
00:22:02.126 --> 00:22:06.106 So Ellen is all about games, making it a game, making it fun.
00:22:06.106 --> 00:22:15.247 So I would go to Ellen, I go to working with this client and I could be working together and I just it's like scratching your eyes out, it's just awful, it's punishment.
00:22:15.319 --> 00:22:28.784 If we could only make it into a game and Ellen goes, I could do that and I knew he was influencing me One might say manipulating, but I would say influencing me to do what he wanted me to do.
00:22:28.784 --> 00:22:48.226 And then I know that with Al, one of the things Al really likes, because he tells us that when you do these personality mapping things and you know this from WhoHire Working Genius DISC there's a lot of them and they're all interesting and very valid for this reason alone, someone tells you about themselves.
00:22:48.226 --> 00:22:51.115 So now that's a respectful thing to do.
00:22:51.115 --> 00:22:55.146 Ask someone to tell you what you like and don't like and how I can better communicate with you.
00:22:55.689 --> 00:23:01.106 Al likes to be acknowledged, like if he does something and helps somebody's life gets better.
00:23:01.106 --> 00:23:11.457 Send Al a thank you note, or I would say Al thank you for, and give him a really specific piece of feedback on how what he did improve my life or someone else's.
00:23:11.457 --> 00:23:12.780 And I just do that.
00:23:12.780 --> 00:23:16.874 It's just like a way to love on you because I know that's important to you.
00:23:16.874 --> 00:23:18.201 So that is.
00:23:18.201 --> 00:23:23.003 I think over the years we've definitely developed that Some of it is to get each other to do something that we don't want to do.
00:23:23.144 --> 00:23:24.307 And the other part of it.
00:23:24.307 --> 00:23:26.553 That is true we genuinely love each other.
00:23:27.079 --> 00:23:31.651 Ellen always tells the story is that she would delegate somebody to brush her teeth if she could.
00:23:31.651 --> 00:23:40.146 Oh yeah, but what I know about Ellen is if she looks around and there's nobody there, she will pick up the toothbrush and do the work.
00:23:40.146 --> 00:23:43.765 Yeah, so that was part of coming to understand one another.
00:23:43.765 --> 00:23:56.420 And when you're at work and you're working with your spouse or other and, by the way, if you are not married to the person you're at work if you don't think that your company sees you as brother, sister, mother, father, you are way off.